Hey everyone! I’m turning the grand ole age of 21 this week and this is going to be a bit of a different blog post compared to what I have done so far as I’ve been feeling severely contemplative about what I’ve achieved and what I have not achieved in my life so far. I know I’m only 21 not 60 and what could I have possibly have to share? I mean I’m only starting off in life right? Well here is the story..
- No one is going to hand you your dreams. I always thought if you were a good person and went to mass, that good things would fall in your lap. This is not true. You seriously have to work to get what you want in life. You want to travel? Work and save and then book your holiday. You want to go to college? Study and organise yourself. You want to meet someone special? Then go out and ask someone out. If you want something in life you are going to have to go and get it yourself. No one gets handed success and opportunities, you have to want and work for them
- It is physically impossible to be everyone’s friend. This is very true for me in the case of college especially. Throughout school I tried to be friends with everyone and I learnt that it’s just not feasible. When I went to college it was an eye opener as to who truly cared about me and who didn’t. Hang onto the people who text you to see how you’re doing and actually make an effort to meet up because they are the ones who are actively making an effort in keeping you in their life. I’m not saying to ditch people or to be mean. I still love going home at Christmas and seeing practically my whole school year out because it’s nice to see how much people change and grow but you don’t need to be everyone’s best best friend. Just be kind.
- Your parents are right (most of the time) It legit took me 21 years to realise this one hahaha. They have been through more ups and downs in life than you so they have a better perspective. It’s just common sense. They’ve been through more in life and can offer some pretty decent advice when it comes down to it. I know “times were different when they were teenagers” and “they don’t understand what it’s like nowadays” TRUST ME I have used all the excuses in the book but at the end of the day you are their child and they really do want what’s best for you so take a step back and listen.
- Time is a great healer. If it’s overcoming a great loss or a lost relationship, it becomes more bearable as the days go on. I know it’s super cliche but I lost some great people over the years from people passing away to just drifting from good friends and I found that it doesn’t hurt as much now to when it happened. Just something to bear in mind if you feel like your world is ending.
- Hangovers get so much worse the older you get. Seriously. Our older brothers and sisters weren’t joking about this one.
- Food can cure most arguments. Your boyfriend is mad at you? Buy him a chicken burger. Your sister is thick you stole her dress? Buy her a bag of jellies. Sorted.
These are just some things I thought I would share because I’ve been feeling very emotional all week. I found a letter I wrote to myself in Leaving Cert and bawled crying which is so unlike me. One last thing I would say is to live your life for yourself. It is too short to waste your whole life pleasing others. Now I’m off to pack for my 3 week trip to Asia and I’ll be sure to post about everything we do. I’m sure there will be loads of mistakes ahah, see you soon.
Mini mint x
(P.s We went to Bellissimo in Waterford City for dinner)